Posts Tagged ‘healthy couples’

Maintaining Healthy Couple Relationships

March 1, 2016

Relationships are work; good or bad, they all take work. Establishing and building a relationship is hard enough, why not make it a good one that lasts? The following are a few things to consider in maintaining a healthy romantic relationship.

Embrace change – Your relations will undoubtedly evolve with life events, unexpected things, and family changes. Consider change as an opportunity to make your relationship stronger.

Check-ins – Talk with your partner about their expectations for the relationship and their personal goals. Checking-in with one another through regular, daily dialogue establishes a good routine, rather than just crisis management.

Know the family – Families are unique, and so are their ways of coping with stress and anxiety. While your family might tend to be emotionally distant, your partner’s might like to engage in conflict and confrontation. Consider what coping style you and your partner inherited from your families. Then, look for ways to work together to resolve conflict.

Right time – Dealing with a problem in the heat of the moment may not be the best time to “hear” one another. Take a few minutes to cool off and gather your thoughts. This opportunity allows you to listen to your partner’s perspective.

Stay current – A conflict is typically not the time to bring up previous unresolved issues. Attempting to solve multiple items typically leads to greater stress and little results.

Be responsible – Everyone has needs and wants in a relationship, but it’s important to remember some expectations may be unrealistic or unfair for your partner to meet. Consider what things you are able to do for yourself and take care of them.

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Twelve Traits of Healthy Couples

June 17, 2013

Only 10% to 15% of couples who have been together for more than five years report that they’re in the relationship they always wanted. Researchers studied these satisfied couples and found the following 12 traits common among them.

Priorities – Healthy couples list quality time together at the top of their priorities.

Time – Instead of just saying it’s a priority, however, these couples make time to be together and pay a lot of attention to each other.

Recovery From Arguments – All couples argue, but these couples practice methods that help them quickly recover from arguments and hurt feelings. They also can set aside their arguing to focus on other things, then resume ironing out differences later.

Touch – These couples also do a lot of touching – hand holding, snuggling, hugging, kissing.

Romancing – These couples also know the importance of surprise, tenderness, compliments and special little gifts – the stuff of romance.

Anticipation – Healthy couples look forward to being with each other. They build excitement and anticipation in their relationship by planning short getaways or special dates.

Playfulness – Healthy couples value playfulness, spontaneity and humor, and they use these devices to help overcome life’s hardships.

Communication – These couples are honest and open with each other. They also freely talk about the things that attract them most to their partner.

Sharing – Healthy couples share their fears and dreams with each other. Sharing their deepest thoughts brings them closer together.

Parenting – These couples are committed to their children, yet minimize the negative impact children can have on the partnership, particularly with respect to time.

Equality – healthy couples value each other as equals. No partner shoulders more responsibility than the other.

Conflict Resolution – Healthy couples resolve conflicts in healthy ways. They express their feelings, pay attention to their partner’s feelings and downplay their differences.

Source: University of Cincinnati Psychological Services Center